Creating a plan for success.

Years ago, before I met the love of my life, I was so weary of dating! After an unremarkable date I said to myself “I’d rather be single forever than ever go out on a date like THAT again”! A few days after that uneventful date I went to a fundraiser where I was all fancy. I like getting dressed up sometimes but I was sad I didn’t have an escort; someone willing to get fancy with me, to share in an exceptional evening, to dance with, to end the evening sharing the highlights of our days with. I got home and once in bed, noticing my notepad, I picked it up and scribbled…

If I had a man in my life today…

He would get dressed up and accompany me to events.

The next night I saw the notepad and after a day of hiking, I added:

If I had a man in my life today…

He would get dressed up and accompany me to events.

He would throw on jeans and go on a hike with me.


This became fun, as the days progressed…


If I had a man in my life today…

He would get dressed up and accompany me to events.

He would throw on jeans and go on a hike with me.

He would love kids.

He would enjoy good food and cooking with me.

He would love my cat.

He would enjoy long walks with me.


Then one day when I had a fabulous day alone I took a deep breath, got into the feeling and added:


He would embrace my independence and enjoy his own.


Sadly over the years I lost the list but I share the concept with most folks I know who are on the hunt for a mate. So many people make a list for their perfect other; to me making such ‘a list’ was abhorrent! If I even considered such a thing it might have gone something like this:


My list to get a man, he must be:






Do you realize the difference? When I happened upon my concept what became so was that everyday I became clear about what was missing in my life THAT DAY.  Then if and when a man might become part of my life I’d know what I was looking for and how said man would enhance it! After about a month I typed it up. I read it every night before I went to sleep, adjusted it now and then and one day shared it with my gal pals who had pressured me to make a list.

“You’ll never get a man who is all that!” they exclaimed! I told them I’d compromise later.

Well, about three months later I met that man, NO compromises! 22 years later we are still together, happier than ever!!


Am I enjoying what I’m doing now?

Recently I was feeling a little unfulfilled and I though what if… getting clear on what I wanted, day by day, with a man worked, why not try it with my life in general. I found it worked a little differently so my process is.

  1. What was great about my day today?
    1. If I have something jot that down.
    2. If I can’t think of anything go to question #2.
  2. What wasn’t perfect/didn’t I prefer about today?
    1. Answer that.
    2. What would turn that negative into a positive?
    3. Jot that down.
  • Keep this up until the list makes me happy.
  • Type it up.
  • Review it every night before going to sleep, fine-tuning as necessary.
  • Read and review and see in my minds eye life the way I want it… until I get it.

My latest is personal to me but as I live in Mexico this is my question.

How can I make living in paradise even better?

What is your question and how can you create the life of your dreams?

Purpose of life

Inspire someone today



For a very special vacation…

www.VillaAmorDelMar.com, La Cruz de Huanacaxtle, Mexico Boutique Hotel, Beachfront Mexico



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